Pope Paul reminded us in Humanae Vitae that conjugal love must always be:

1. “Fully human… an act of the free will” of the spouses, “so that husband and wife become in a way one heart and one soul, and together attain their human fulfillment.”

2. “Total—that very special form of personal friendship in which husband and wife generously share everything… Whoever really loves his partner loves not only for what he receives, but loves that partner for the partner's own sake, content to be able to enrich the other with the gift of himself.”

3. “Faithful and exclusive of all other, and this until death. This is how husband and wife understood it on the day on which, fully aware of what they were doing, they freely vowed themselves to one another in marriage… The example of countless married couples proves not only that fidelity is in accord with the nature of marriage, but also that it is the source of profound and enduring happiness.”

4. “Fecund. It is not confined wholly to the loving interchange of husband and wife; it also contrives to go beyond this to bring new life into being. ‘Marriage and conjugal love are by their nature ordained toward the procreation and education of children. Children are really the supreme gift of marriage and contribute in the highest degree to their parents' welfare.’”

Spousal love -union of heart and mind forever.
St. John Chrysostom, said that young husbands should tell their wives, “I have taken you in my arms, and I love you, and I prefer you to my life itself. For the present life is nothing, and my most ardent dream is to spend it with you in such a way that we may be assured of not being separated in the life reserved for us.… I place your love above all things, and nothing would be more bitter or painful to me than to be of a different mind than you. (CCC 2365, St. John Chrysostom, Hom. in Eph. 20, 8: PG 62, 146–147.)

Pope Francis: "The love [couples] pledge is greater than any emotion, feeling, or state of mind, although it may include all of these. It is a deeper love, a lifelong decision of the heart. Even amid unresolved conflicts and confused emotional situations, they daily reaffirm their decision to love, to belong to one another, to share their lives, and to continue loving and forgiving." from Love in Marriage

The Pastoral Approach to Marriage Should be Founded on Truth -Cardinal Ratzinger

"The Husband and wife should be like the hand and the eye. When the hand and hurts, the eye shoud be crying and when the eye is crying the hand should wipe the tears" St. John Chrysostom

Chesterton: "People do not know what they are doing because they do not know what they are undoing".

Marriage Preparation  Beloved DVD set
Marriage canon law
Protecting Marriage- I   Creating Communities Centered on Marriage - II
Defense of Marriage  Marriage is the union of one man and one woman to be fruitful and  faithful forever. 
One man one woman, why

Living together: 5 secular reasons not to live together before marriage
-TOB Healing has retreats for married, engaged, other; counseling etc. Bob Schuchts
Retrouvaille -for marriages in trouble.

Rite of Marriage: The Cross of Christ
Marriage, witnessing to the world - Rev. Rick Warren

Saint in a forced marriage St. Frances of Rome

Pregnancy -
great books
Infertility Book: "Infertility Companion for Catholics" -Carmen Santamaria & Angelique Ruhi-Lopez, Ave Maria Press.

Reception of Holy Communion by Divorced and Re-Married -Card. Ratzinger.
Divorced and Remarried and Church - Pope Benedict XVI
Divorced and abandoned spouses 
-Recognizing value of their sacrifice.





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