Why two of the same sex cannot marry
Fr. Jordi Rivero

All persons suffer the brokenness of the human condition after the fall. One of the most devastating effects is the perversion of the gift of sexuality. It shows up in the inability to integrate sexuality into God's purpose for it. This is a problem affecting most people in one way or another, including heterosexuals. The solution is not to pretend that all is normal and acceptable, nor to satisfy the tendencies of the flesh, but to turn to Christ and join Him at the cross so that healing can take place. We all must die to the rebelliousness of the flesh and find a new life in Christ. 

Marriage was designed by God to unite in love a man and a woman an give them children. Since one of the essential characteristics for marriage is sexual difference, it should be obvious that same-sex couples cannot marry.

Dont same-sex couples have a right to marry?

The right to marry is the right to enter into marriage. But since marriage is a union of a man and a woman, it is impossible for a same sex couple to marry. So what they want is to re-define marriage so that it means something very different from what it truly is. It is like demanding the right to recognize triangles as squares. Well, then the meaning of "square" is changed. What they are demanding is the right to destroy marriage to satisfy their fantasies, to pretend something that is not. Two persons of the same sex will never be marriage even if the state calls it so. As the bishops have said, "it is not bigotry or discrimination to treat different things differently" 

A man and a woman are not the only requirements for marriage. No matter how much they say they love each other, a father has no right to marry his daughter. Both parties must be single. The Church recognizes that some mental impairments can be an impediment for marriage. 

Every institution has its identity and purpose and thus its proper demands. For example, one must be able to see and to posses particular skills to be a driver or a pilot.    

Redefining marriage produces a lie that results in the loss of the right to religious liberty. Those who refuse to accept same-sex "marriage" will be penalized by the state. The Catholic Church, for example, could be coerced to "marry" persons of the same sex. 

Society has the duty to protect marriage for the common good.

Marriage is not only for the sake of those married but also for the well-being of their children and society. The family constitutes the basic cell of society. Therefore the state has an obligation, for the common good, to protect the integrity of marriage. By legalizing so called same sex marriages the state would in fact declare that having a mother and a father is not at all important.  

Reason and faith tell us that a stable loving marriage between a man and a woman is the best environment for raising children. This has been amply demonstrated in many studies. Men and women have unique characteristics and they complement each other in their ability to raise children. But even more important is the need of children to have both the contribution of the father and the mother in their human development. Often in the debates regarding the "right" of homosexual unions, children are ignored.

Marriage existed since God's creation. It does not receive its identity by legal recognition by the state. The state can legalize same sex unions and declare that is a marriage, but that would simply be a lie. The lie has dire consequences and the greatest victims are the children.

Did not Jesus love all?
Yes, God loves all His sons and daughters even when we are rebellious. But love is not approval of wrongful behavior. His love is revealed in His Son which He sent to save us from our sinful ways. Jesus said that those who want to be His disciples must deny themselves, take the cross and follow Him. Then He can begin the process of healing us from our disorders and giving us a new life.

We should love all people as Jesus did. He suffered for the sins of all and so should we. This means that we see Christ in them even when they are acting contrary to God's will. Sometimes we have to tolerate sinful behavior around us because we have no jurisdiction over them. We suffer it in union with Christ. But we do not approve what is sinful. An important part of loving is to help the person find their true vocation in union with Christ if we can do so. If we are in a gathering with our children and there are persons openly causing scandal to the children, such as getting drunk or improper sexual behavior of any kind, including homosexual manifestations, we do well to leave even if they are our family. Parent's responsibility for children comes first. Sure the children are going to be exposed to scandal somewhere else, but at least it will not be with their parents there taking it as normal.  

The future of humanity at stake
Benedict XVI wrote:
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In addition to a clear goal, that of leading young people to a full knowledge of reality and thus of truth, education needs settings. Among these, pride of place goes to the family, based on the marriage of a man and a woman. This is not a simple social convention, but rather the fundamental cell of every society. Consequently, policies which undermine the family threaten human dignity and the future of humanity itself. 

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